I recently read an enlightening article, “8 Things Emotionally Intelligent People Never Do When Talking to Others” by Harvey Deutschendorf, and thought it would be useful to summarize those eight things.
- Be a People Person, Not a Talking Machine – Emotionally intelligent people are like ninjas of conversation. They blend in seamlessly, making others feel comfortable and engaged. They don’t dominate the conversation or blurt out offensive jokes. Instead, they actively listen, ask thoughtful questions, and show genuine interest in what others have to say.
- Don’t Be a Self-Absorbed Selfie Stick – Emotionally intelligent people aren’t the stars of their own reality shows. They don’t hog the spotlight or make every conversation about themselves. They understand that relationships are a two-way street, and they strive to make others feel valued and heard.
- Drop the “It’s Not My Job” Attitude – Emotionally intelligent people are team players. They don’t shirk responsibility or hide behind job descriptions. They’re always willing to lend a hand, even if it’s not technically their duty. They know that helping others makes the whole team stronger.
- Ditch the Negative Nancies – Emotionally intelligent people surround themselves with positive vibes. They seek out people who share their goals and aspirations, people who lift them up instead of dragging them down. They know that negative energy is contagious, and they’d rather not catch a cold.
- Don’t Be a Distracted Doodlebug – Emotionally intelligent people are present in the moment. When you’re talking to them, they give you their undivided attention. They don’t check their phones, scan the room, or doodle on napkins. They’re fully engaged in the conversation, making you feel like the most important person in the world.
- Remember the Little Things – Emotionally intelligent people pay attention to details. They remember names, birthdays, and important events. They show that they care by sending cards, making phone calls, and genuinely remembering the things that matter to the people in their lives.
- Avoid Offensive Humor – Emotionally intelligent people know that jokes can be hurtful. They steer clear of offensive or tasteless humor, especially if it could make someone feel uncomfortable. They understand that words can have a lasting impact, and they choose them carefully.
- Be a Conversation Catalyst, Not a Talking Waterfall – Emotionally intelligent people are skilled conversationalists. They don’t just talk; they listen. They ask questions that encourage others to open up and share their thoughts and feelings. They create a space where people feel safe to express themselves, and that’s where meaningful connections are made.
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